Friends of Presence
There are the acquaintances, hang-out friends, friends of depth, friends of depth but later grow apart, friends of depth that only see each other once in awhile…and then there are the friends of presence, which may or may not involve depth.
There is something powerful about…presence. About seeming care. My sister mentioned something about how when people get married they understand how important going to things like bridal showers (or/and weddings?) is. And you know, I wonder if that might be true to an extent. Even though the planning of my wedding won’t be as long, months-wise, as perhaps most brides in the U.S., there is quite a bit of thought going into that day. And it is an important day.
It’s nice when someone seems to care. It’s just…nice. I wonder if going to other people’s more ‘monumental’ events and just the repeated rubbing of elbows helps move the friendship level from acquaintance to something deeper. It is also nice when someone seems to care and wants to spend time with you outside of of a monumental occasion.
It’s just…nice…when people seem to care.
I should become more initiative in my relationships and friendships. You never know when someone might be touched by the present of presence…
Being present involves more than just our bodies, doesn’t it? I think it includes a focused mind. I’m guilty of sitting somewhere and in my mind I am somewhere else. I’m learning to be present in the moment. It’s quite rewarding.
And you are right it would be nice to have more contact with others in the everyday events not just the big ones.
I love your blog title. I’m changing mine eventually to my life purpose statement which will include the word “lens.” Great word choice..
Tiffany Stuart
December 5, 2008 at 5:19 pm
Thanks for stopping by! Thanks also for the reminder that being present includes a presence of mind. That is so true, and I’m often very guilty of that and really need to grow in putting others before myself.
Rachael
December 6, 2008 at 9:41 am
A person’s presence makes a change happen… also the presence of friends is comporting…. we feel supported, protected, cared for, and connected. All of these are important affirmative emotions to feel in life.
I love you.
Steve
Stephen
December 12, 2008 at 12:19 am